Posted by: Ed Tittel
ensuring all family members enjoy vacation, making the most of vacation, managing a shared experience, working family dynamics
OK, so I’m on vacation this week and I’m learning how not to be at work most of the time, and how to be relaxing and enjoying my family and my freedom instead. To some extent, this is a challenge all by itself because I’m so used to hunkering down by myself in my office, immersed in a world that’s more virtual than real, chasing interesting phantoms of thought and technology.
This week, my challenge is of a completely different order. I’m out of the customary routine, now responsible for finding things to do, places to visit, and sights to see not just for my own family, but also for my sister’s family (herself, her husband, and their 11-year-old son and 14-year-old daughter). Of course, I’m not in this alone — there are three other adults around to provide input, exert leadership, and guide choices, and the kids are never shy about making their wants and wishes known, either.
But so far we’ve managed nicely to enjoy ourselves and our surroundings. We’ve hit the local beaches four times, have visited a nifty museum or two, and have taken several lengthy hiking excursions into nearby local attractions. It’s always interesting getting a bunch of people moving, and keeping them moving at enough of the same pace to make satisfactory progress between points A and B (or as Tolkien put it as the subtitle for The Hobbit: “There, and Back Again.”
In the meantime, I’m observing that many of the same skills I’ve developed in setting up, configuring, and troubleshooting technology have some small value in helping to manage family affairs and activities. More humorously, my tendency to make assumptions about causes and solutions can also lead me away from the truth just as well in this sphere as it can in my more customary haunts. But gosh, it sure it fun to turn my hand (or more appropriately, to lend that hand) toward steering “rough consensus” about what we should do today, and helping to foster a situation where everybody gets to have fun, and enjoy themselves.
Now, if only I could figure out how to bring this spirit and attitude to work, too!